The things you can always count on

There are things in life that we can't control...I am very well aware of that concept. This week, my goal is to truly embrace what we can't control.

I am a punctual person. I despise lateness. If you say we are leaving at 2:30am, I will be in the car all packed by 2:25am. My best friend is the polar opposite about time management.

Over our 12 years of friendship, I can count on one hand the number of times that she has been on time. In fact, we use to give her a special time that was an hour before the actual time.

I can't stand it. I still love her and I almost always know that I can be late with her and it doesn't matter....but I still am early.

Today, I was suppose to be at her house at 6:30am to leave. I was there with my stuff next to her car by 6:25am. As I went to lock my car, I saw a text from her saying to let myself in, she was running late.

My initial response was annoyance and then I smiled. What was I thinking? This is my fault for expecting a change. That would be like her expecting me to be late. 

There are things in life you can control-how many people you eat with, if your bathroom is clean, how you wear your hair. Then, there's everything else. I can't control her timeliness, but I can control my reaction.

This week, when things start to annoy me or frustrate me, I am going to take a second to embrace life and show compassion...I won't change overnight but overtime, I can become a better person.

6:57am...still waiting

*Delete if Revealed* There's more to me

If my friends read this, they'd not like me...A few months ago I posted about everything changing. If I knew then what I know now, I might have felt differently.

Children ruin everything.

I love kids. I work with them. I think they are the future and I want more for them than I do for myself.

But...they ruin everything.

Before, conversations ranged from food ideas to houses to weight loss to exercise to crafts to music.

Now, everything comes back to baby.

Example:

FW: how's your day
Friend: it's okay. Baby rolled over.
FW: ooh cool. How many times has baby done it now?
Friend: she did it three times today.
FW: so she's a pro at it now! That's exciting! It's been very busy today. This is my first break. My coworker of 8 years walked out with no warning. She made everyone miserable.
Friend: that sticks. Baby just rolled over again!!!

I wish I was kidding. A few weeks ago my coworker said "your child is only amazing to you. They are only special to you." I wish I could say that to a mom once in a while.

I truly love kids. They tend to be more honest than anything else in the world. They are pure and sweet and innocent. They live in a world of possibilities. They're awesome.

But in an adult world, constant baby talk is annoying. I need to be able to have one conversation without baby being mentioned.

Babies ruin everything.

Spending Diet week 2

Well the second week has passed. It's been interesting. I think we're really learning how to live within our means. The funny thing to me is that we've both spent our "personal spending." I have like $15 left and he over spent by $2.63.

Cooking at home has been really fun. We've been alternating. What I've learned is that we need to increase fruits and vegetables. We run out of those after a few days and then we spend the rest of the week eating frozen ones.

I've been walking with the neighbors and it is awesome. I love these girls. They're good stuff.

Anyways, I hope this week is better! No weight change but no worries.

A Spending Diet is a diet!

Today marks the end of the first official week of our spending diet and living on cash. Skinny says it's pretty easy, I say it's not too hard. For me, I don't think about my spending obsessively. If I'm on my way to work and my tank is low, I fill up. If I'm hungry while out with a friend, I eat. I don't buy a lot of crap, but I spend more money than I should.

What it boils down to is failing to plan is planning to fail. You hear that all the time in diet world. Plan your meals in advance, plan your exercise in advance, plan your snacks, plan your drinks, plan, plan, plan.

I like to plan. I don't necessarily like to follow my plan. This is true in my diet past as well. I like to say "oh man, I'm going to do this, this, and this, and it's going to be awesome" and then it turns into none of that and no awesome.

Skinny and I have routinely made plans for meals during the week. When the week starts, we end up going out because we're tired and we're hungry. Well we have to drive 10 minutes, wait 30 minutes for food, eat for 15 minutes, wait 10 minutes for the check, then spend our hard earned money! So by the time we get home, we've spend 1.5 hours of our night and all of our extra money we earned that day. It's a little crazy.

With the spending diet, we've only eaten out once this week. I can even tell in my clothes that I'm actually decreasing a little. This whole eating at home thing is very healthy-it's cheaper and less calories.

It's interesting to me...I walk for my dogs, I eat at home for my wallet...at some point, I'll realize I'm really doing stuff for me.

We're getting ready to go to the store now. I need to make my list, clip my coupons, and get out the door!

Here's to a great Saturday! Make it special folks!